Today I want to explore an idea that might sound a little controversial. Confidence is a lie. Or at least, the way we have been taught to think about it is.
Most of us grow up believing that confidence is something you either have or you don’t. That some people just wake up brimming with self belief and the rest of us have to fake it until we make it. But that is not how it works.
You Don’t Wake Up Confident, You Build It
Real confidence does not come from a sudden burst of energy or inspiration. It comes from evidence.
Evidence that you can do what you said you would. Evidence that you can take a step, even when it feels uncomfortable.
Confidence is built one action at a time.
The problem is that we often wait to feel confident before taking action, when in fact, it is the action that creates the confidence.
Stepping into the Unknown
I have been thinking about this a lot lately because I am in the middle of building something new. A new business. A new chapter. And to be honest, it is scary.
There are moments where I doubt myself. Moments where I wish I felt more confident about what is ahead.
But then I remind myself. The only way to build confidence is to keep taking small steps forward.
This morning I sat down and wrote out the little actions that I can take today. The things that will move me one step closer to that bigger goal. Because every small piece of progress becomes another piece of evidence that I can do hard things.
Looking Back to Move Forward
When was the last time you achieved something that once felt impossible?
Maybe it was starting a business, speaking in public, or making a big change in your life.
Think back to that moment. You probably didn’t feel confident at the start, but you took action anyway. That is how confidence is built. One action. One piece of proof. One brave step at a time.
The Real Truth About Confidence
The truth is, confidence is not something you wake up with. It is something you earn.
And the only way to earn it is to move forward even when you don’t feel ready.
So if you are building, learning, or growing right now, and you are waiting to feel confident before you start, stop waiting.
Take one small step today. Then take another tomorrow. That is where real confidence begins.
Enjoy your coffee, and go do something awesome this week ☕✨